Kathy Gates, Professional Life Coach
Ever wondered about those people who seem to be
able to always roll with the punches and be happy no
matter what the circumstances (we all know at least
one)? Are they out of touch with reality, or do they
know something that you don't?
I was curious, so I began to ask "happy" people what
they thought their secret was. Here's some of the
answers I got. See if using one of them in your own
life might help you be a happier person too.
1. Happy people are in control of their lives. They
choose where they live, where they work, how much
they smile, what they eat. They choose what time
they get up, how they spend their money, when
they'll balance the checkbook. Don't underestimate
how choosing the small things in your life creates an
environment that you want instead of one dictated by
2. Happy people know that their bodies are
connected to their minds, and they must take care of
both. Eating better, sleeping enough, getting some
exercise all ties into a happier frame of mind. Watch
what goes into your body as well as what goes into
3. Happy people don't treat life as a win-lose game.
Instead, they know how to treat life as a learning
experience. Very few things are written in stone. If
something's not working, try something different.
Don't keep beating your head against the wall just
because "that's the way you've always done it."
4. Happy people know how to live in the present.
Bad things have happened to everyone, but why
would you want to relive a bad experience over and
over and over? Let the bad in your past go, and look
to the good things that you can create in the present
and the future.
5. Happy people expect that "life happens" (yeah I
cleaned that up a bit). If you anticipate the best, yet
prepare for the worst, you'll always be in the driver's
seat. You won't get blindsided by a mistake or
circumstance that you can't control. You won't feel
helpless. You'll feel prepared.
6. Happy people create a step by step plan. Waiting
for things to happen to you might work. Including the
lottery in your long term financial plans might work.
But don't underestimate the power of small steps in
your life. Just saving one dollar a day equals a debt
free Christmas at the end of the year.
7. Happy People know how to move on from
mistakes by learning and looking ahead. Don't stop
in the middle of what you're doing and focus on the
mistake. It will paralyze you from moving forward.
Move on by focusing on where you need to be, on
what's important at that time. Analyze the mistake
later when you can learn constructively from it, not
beat yourself up about it.