Itís for your own well-being. Thereís just times when you have to say, ďNo, I canít do that
today, Iíve already made plans.Ē
Itís always nice to keep those grandkids or be able to run errands for this person or that.
Just plain helping someone out. But, donít you find that sometimes youíre doing and going for
everybody but yourself?
I donít believe everyone (or at least most) intentionally are trying to take advantage of you,
itís just that you are always THERE to do for others and you seem to make it easy for them to
ask, (you know the sound, ďMom, Iíve got to go shopping, can you keep the kids for a few hours,
Mom, going away for the week-end, can you keep the kids (etc.!)? or ďMrs. ???, Iíve got a lot
of errands to run today, would you mind so much taking me in you car? How about, ďWe need a
volunteer to handle the church bake sale, will you do it?Ē) I could go on and on, but I think
you get what Iím talking about!
So, try to set aside a little time just for yourself. Even if itís an hour or two a couple of
times a week. (a whole day would be even better) Have lunch with the girls, go shopping by
yourself, have your hair and nails done, try reading a book. Join a bowling league, play golf
or tennis. Maybe even take some classes of some kind, art maybe, writing, cooking? The list is
endless of the things you can come up with! Isnít that what these ďEmpty Nest ď years are
suppose to be about? Having more time to do the things youíve been wanting to do?
If you have a spouse, take some short week-ends just for the two of you! Get to know each
other again, (get to know yourself again!) just have some fun with each other. The rest of the
world can manage to get along without you for a little while.
Now, the next time youíve just made special plans of your own and someone calls to ask you to
do something for them, (with the exception of a REAL emergency!) donít feel guilty about
telling them that you already have plans!
Remember, itís for your own well-being! Everyone needs a little private time now and then. It
helps keep you sane!
So, itís ok, to be selfish once in a while!