This is an essential skill.
There are a wide range
of courses and books that you can refer to if you want to learn more about
When you feel relaxed it is easier to think on your feet and
to be flexible when you need to be.
Before a social gathering get ready to have something to talk
With the internet on your PC there is no excuse for not
becoming well informed about the world. The more knowledge you have the
more conversations you can contribute to.
Make a point though of
reading up on a variety of subjects otherwise your conversation topics will
be limited to what interests you the most. And those topics may not interest
your friends as much.
3 Become genuinely interested in other
One of the big secrets to conversation power is to shut up!
We are all a lot more interested in ourselves than in anyone
When there is a long silence encourage the other person to
talk by asking questions and taking an active interest in the
Take charge of the situation if you want the conversation
4 Stupid Statements Are Allowed!
If you say
something stupid it is not the end of the world. If you try to hide your
error then the situation can become chaotic very quickly.
It is far
better to just admit that you made a mistake. Also, accept that even smart
people say stupid things some times.
As long as you accept that you will
make mistakes you have nothing to worry about. Expecting yourself to be
perfect is unfair and just sets you up for failure.
All you need to do
now is to decide how you will deal with these mistakes when they do
5 Enjoy The Silence!
When there is a long silence in a
conversation what normally passes through your mind? Do you judge it as bad?
Do you feel under pressure to speak?
The other person has created the
silence with you. Why not wait for him to speak first? Take the
responsibility off your shoulders. It takes at least two people to have a
Finally, the reason silence can be uncomfortable is because
you become self conscious. You become very aware of your own thoughts and
There is one great way to deal with this. Put your attention
on something outside of yourself by paying great attention to the other
person and whatever is going on around you in the room.
by what you see and hear and you will forget about your own