(FeatureSource) - Spark up your love life with these quick tips
from Liya Lev Oertel, author of "52 Romantic Evenings" (Meadowbrook Press).
1.Tell each other, "I love you" first thing in the morning and just before
you fall asleep. You may get so used to hearing that as the last words of the
day, you might not be able to fall asleep unless you hear them.
2. Leave notes for each other with loving (or sexy) messages. Choose
frequently seen places, like the fridge or bathroom mirror, or unexpected
places, like the briefcase, wallet, or sock drawer. Update the messages every
week. A faded sticky note on the fridge might send the wrong message. Have a
secret stash of funny, romantic cards. When your partner travels for work,
smuggle an inscribed card into the suitcase.
3. If you have kids, arrange a weekly or monthly evening with a babysitter,
grandparent, or friend - same time every time - and go out (or stay in), just
the two of you. If only for a few hours, this standing date will be something
you can put on your calendar so you can both look forward to it.
4. Make ordinary meals special. Light candles, even if you are sending out
for pizza; pour something sparkling into wine glasses; place a flower in a bud
vase; turn off the TV and play some romantic music. Those are all simple,
inexpensive, and fast touches that will turn any dinner into a romantic
5. Have some sweet or funny pet names for each other, and use them. Just
don't let those pet names become habitual. Be aware of what the names mean and
why you use them. For example, don't call each other sweetie pie in the middle
of a heated argument.
6. Take walks together and hold hands, even if you are also pushing a
7. Dust off all the silky little nothings you have accumulated but probably
never wear, and wear them.
8. Create a Romance Collection Jar, and empty all your silver change and a
dollar or two into it every evening. Once the jar is full, do something fun with
it - a restaurant you want to try, a show you would like to see, and so on.
Collecting the money builds anticipation, which is part of the experience. Make
a list of restaurants, shows, movies, and so on, and hang the list next to the
jar. Or, to make decision even easier, cut the list into strips and keep them in
9. On little strips of paper write romantic things to do that require little
or no preparation: dining out in a restaurant, taking a walk, going for a scenic
drive, having a picnic, reading poetry to each other, taking a bubble bath,
giving each other a massage, dancing in the living room or the backyard,
stargazing, and anything else you think is romantic. Place the strips into a
bowl, jar, box, or whatever, labeled Romance Helpers. When you feel like doing
something romantic but don't know what, just pull out a romantic idea and make a
plan of action.
10. Have some daily rituals to bring you together: an hour of watching a
favorite program on TV while cuddling on the couch; a daily walk after dinner;
eating dinner together every night; and so on. These rituals can involve the
kids as well, as with dinner or a walk, for example. You might ask, how is that
romantic? Having fun together is romantic, no matter what you might be doing. If
you take people who love each other, confine them to a small space, and have
them tickle and laugh together, you get closeness, enjoyment, and as an
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