By Hershey Wier, MBA
One of the most important things I learned back in business school
was that promotions often don`t depend on one`s job skills, but on
interpersonal skills. It was impressed upon us that an employee could
have the best skills in the department, but if he/she could not get
work done through people, cooperate with people, then that employee
could be going nowhere fast, in spite of wonderful skills.
So, with all of the back-stabbing and jockeying-for-position in
today`s tough marketplace, you might ask, "What`s love got to do with this?"
Love is connected to money. If the word "love" is too strong for you,
then you could try the word "like." People do all sorts of things for
other people, simply because they like or love them. Parents buy and
do all sorts of things for their kids because they love them. The
same goes for friends and lovers. When you get a promotion, you get
more money, and since love is connected to money, love is also
connected to promotions, love is connected to success. See the logic?
We often hear the saying "business is business." It gives one the
impression that as soon as human beings enter a business situation,
we can automatically shut our feelings off. That feelings do not
affect the outcome of business decisions. In any business situation,
all things being equal, you`ll do your business with those for whom
you feel an affinity. In some cases, decisions are based solely on
practical variables, such as price. However, even then, you will
wisely avoid doing business with the cheaper bid if your gut feeling
tells you that something isn`t right - something seems dishonorable
or "fishy." In short, *you don`t like* the person or the situation.
So, how do you start loving your way to success? Well, it isn`t by
getting touchy-feely with your co-workers, particularly if that is
not your natural self. Be yourself. What matters is what`s going on
inside of you. I have worked in some hostile work environments, and
as you may know, it takes a saint in order to keep from thinking the
worst about co-workers who are determined to make your life miserable.
So, be a saint. Realize that deep down, no one - including the
troublemakers - wants to work in a stress-filled environment. It`s
just that some people, regardless of their rank in the organization,
do not know how to manage, how to cooperate, nor how to create a
positive and productive work- environment. That is the sad and simple
reality. You can help them by trying something on a regular basis,
Kything is creating positive outcomes in your mind`s eye. Envisioning
scenes, even if they are pure fiction, scenes of you and the
people/situation you`d like to change. Keep the higher good of all in
mind while visualizing your scene. You may be doing this for
yourself, but keep in mind the needs of your colleagues, as well. I
believe that what you conjure up in your mind`s eye will could very
well come back to you - the good - as well as the not-so-good thoughts.
Remember, you`re not necessarily kything/conjuring up a scene that
sets up your promotion. You are setting up a scene in which
circumstances at work are positive for all. You will be amazed at the
improved countenance you develop while working through this process.
And, you should, almost miraculously, see improvements in the
countenance of others. The positive energy you radiate during your
kything sessions, have the power to affect those you kythe on in a
positive way. Kything is not a one-time venture. It is something to
work into your ANEW Soultimes - your daily quiet times, in order to
create peaceful, positive outcomes in your life.
Have you tried kything? Are you going to give it a try? Write in with
your experiences. I'd love to hear from you.